Yes, in a way the community has had to replace the family. Once upon a time in Ireland every one lived in the same place amongst the same people always. This is no longer so. People learn or should learn to depend on each other in a neighbourhood and form alliances that will help and strengthen everyone. Both relationships have an important part. It is essential not to allow a feud with any member of the family as it will lead to regrets and sorrows later. It is also important to keep your friends, to nourish friendships and not lose touch with people you have known. A good friend in life is hugely important and you can have a life-long conversation where neither of you need to explain anything because you share the same memories.